Your Home. Your Body. Both Are Meant To Be Lived In.
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In this issue:
- Rewire - Your House Is Meant to Be Lived In
- Reboot - The House You Can’t Replace
- One Action - Relax One. Raise One.
Rewire - Idea I'm Exploring
Your House Is Meant to Be Lived In
You’ll Miss the Mess One Day
There’s something I would go back and tell my 20-year-old self.
Relax.
I used to stress over the condition of my home. Everything had to be in its place. Clean. To my standards.
The kitchen couldn’t have a dirty dish sitting in the sink. Crumbs anywhere? Unacceptable.
A scratch, chip, or dent? It would bother me until it was fixed.
I didn’t understand how other people could live differently.
Then you add roommates.
A live-in partner.
Friends and family come over with kids.
Eventually, married with kids of your own.
You can imagine how that went.
I’d find myself following people around cleaning up behind them. Resetting everything back to “perfect” the moment it drifted.
Looking back, it wasn’t about cleanliness. It was control.
And underneath that – perfectionism. An impossible standard.
Homes aren’t meant to stay static and perfect – they’re meant to be lived in.
This gradually started to change for me when I had my son.
Anyone who’s had young kids knows trying to maintain a perfectly clean home is a losing battle.
Toys everywhere.
Sticky fingerprints. Spills.
Noise. Chaos.
You can fight it.
Or you can accept what it actually is.
Life happening.
I later came across the Japanese philosophy of Wabi-sabi.
At its core, it’s the acceptance of imperfection, transience, and wear.
Not as flaws, but as part of the beauty of things.
A scratch isn’t damage. It’s evidence of use.
Embracing that concept changed things for me.
Less tension.
More calm
More presence.
Because instead of constantly trying to restore everything to some artificial standard, I could just let it be what it was.
A home being lived in.
I recently passed this on to a family member:
Don’t worry about the crumbs and the fingerprints.
Because one day, they won’t be there.
And you’ll miss them.
That doesn’t mean you neglect your home.
You still take care of it.
You clean.
You maintain.
You fix what needs to be fixed.
But you stop trying to make it perfect all the time.
Especially with kids.
Let them make a mess.
Let them play.
Let them be kids.
Toys on the floor usually mean something good just happened. Fun.
And if your main interaction with them becomes correcting, cleaning, or nagging over things that don’t matter…
They’ll remember that.
Your house is meant to be used. Lived in.
Not a showroom.
Take care of it. But don’t miss your life trying to keep it perfect.
There’s a reason this idea resonates so much.
Because it doesn’t just apply to the place you live.
It applies to the body you live in.
Reboot - Health & Longevity
The House You Can’t Replace
You’ve probably heard some version of this before:
Your body is the house you live in for your entire life.
It’s a useful way to think about it because it forces a simple reality:
You don’t get to move.
No upgrade. No replacement.
This is it.
But here’s where many people get it wrong.
They treat their body one of two ways:
Either like something fragile that shouldn’t be pushed…
Or something disposable that can be neglected.
It’s neither.
Just like your home, it’s meant to be used.
And if you use it properly, it will look like it.
Strong, fit, capable.
If you don’t…that will show too.
The human body is remarkably good at maintaining and repairing itself.
It’s constantly renewing, recycling, and adapting.
One of the key processes behind this is autophagy. A system where your body clears out damaged cells and regenerates new ones.
But here’s the catch: That system works best when you give it a reason to.
Movement.
Stress (the right kind).
Recovery.
Use is what drives adaptation.
This is where most people fall off.
They either don’t use their body enough, or don’t maintain it.
Both lead to breakdown over time.
If you go back to the 6 domains of health and longevity, three sit clearly at the top:
That’s your foundation.
Everything else builds on that.
You do the regular work:
- You move your body (daily use)
- You recover (sleep)
- You fuel it properly (nutrition)
That’s your baseline maintenance.
Then there’s ongoing care:
- Strength training
- Cardiovascular conditioning
- Mobility work
- Massage, physiotherapy, osteopathy when needed (I call these tune-ups)
- Monitoring key health markers
This is no different than servicing your HVAC, maintaining your appliances, or fixing small issues before they become big ones.
And yes — if you push your limits, things may happen.
Scrapes, strains and injuries. But that’s part of using your body.
Avoiding all stress isn’t the goal.
Managing it is.
Because a body that is never challenged becomes fragile.
The goal isn’t perfection.
It’s function. Longevity with capability.
You have to take care of this house.
Because if you let it deteriorate, you can’t sell it and buy a new one.
The good news?
It’s never too late to start.
The body responds quickly to the right inputs.
Move more.
Sleep better.
Eat better.
Do that consistently and things begin to change faster than you think.
If you want a simple starting point:
- Walk 8–10k steps per day (baseline movement)
- Strength train 1–3x per week
- Prioritize sleep (consistent schedule, 7-9 hours)
- Eat mostly whole foods, prioritizing protein
Use your body. Live in it. Maintain it.
It’s the only place you have to live.
“Take care of what you live in. But don’t forget to live in it.”
One Action
Relax One. Raise One.
Choose one area to let go and one area to tighten up:
Relax your standards at home. Let one thing stay imperfect this week without stressing over it.
Raise them for your health. Pick one non-negotiable for your body this week. Do it.
Let me know what you choose.
Inspirational Quote
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”
– Anaïs Nin
It was never about the mess.
It was how I was choosing to see it.
Change the lens and the experience changes.
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